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Is there life after divorce? The heroines of our selection can say an unequivocal “yes” in response to this question. The ex-wives of famous men not only managed to survive betrayal, but did the impossible - they radically changed their lives and began to inspire other women by personal example.

After a painful separation from the father of three children, football player Andrei Arshavin, Baranovskaya managed to radically change her life. Julia actively pursued a career in television. First, she tried herself as a consultant for the “Bachelor” project on TNT, then appeared on the “Girls” show on the Rossiya TV channel, after which she began hosting the “Reboot” program on TNT. The key theme of the project - self-development and getting rid of fears and complexes - was very close to Yulia herself, who had to go through a similar reboot in her usual life. Then the TV presenter began working on Channel One as co-host of Alexander Gordon in the program “Male and Female.”

Now the 30-year-old single mother has a presence at fashion shows, covers of glossy magazines, and a large number of interviews. And not so long ago, Yulia Baranovskaya showed off a new side of her talent. Her book about life with Andrei Arshavin, called “Everything for the Better,” is being prepared for publication. “The main idea of ​​the book: happiness is a person’s internal state, which does not depend on the place where you live or on your income,” the author said in an interview. “I know this for sure, because I have had several periods in my life when situations seemed hopeless, but everything turned out for the better.”

Anna Grachevskaya

A native of Kharkov went through a difficult divorce in February 2014 - 29-year-old Anna Grachevskaya left 66-year-old Boris Grachevsky after four years of relationship, taking with her her one-and-a-half-year-old daughter Vasilisa. After breaking up with her husband, who, according to her, was against her pursuing self-realization, Grachevskaya devoted herself entirely to work. Today Anna hosts a music program on the Russian Musicbox channel and social events, and recently she made a splash in Elena Samodanova’s musical “Dances and Stars.” In addition, the young mother is promoting the Pink Rabbit family strengthening chain of stores.

In one of the interviews, Anna admitted that after a difficult divorce from Boris Grachevsky, she only wanted to develop and grow professionally, but she began to be cynical about men. However, a meeting with the captain of the Zenit basketball club Artem Kuzyakin in May last year made her change her mind. Quite quickly, Anna and Artem decided to live together. As the TV presenter says, living together did not spoil their relationship at all. Kuzyakin has already proposed to Anna, their wedding will take place this summer.

35-year-old Katya Gordon has always dreamed of fame. Many believe that Katya married her teacher Alexander Gordon only for personal gain. In fact, she began to actively build a career after her divorce from her husband in 2006. Gordon worked as a presenter at various radio stations, then moved to television. In addition, Ekaterina writes songs herself, created the music group BlondRock, recorded a music album, and also owns a law firm.

She once admitted that she was greatly offended by talk that she was making a career at the expense of a famous family name. To such statements, Katya replied that she left her because at the time of the divorce she was already working on the radio. “My entire career in journalism was accomplished in three years of pain over Gordon,” she said in an interview. - Maybe that’s why I easily earned a reputation as a brawler? Now I myself have become a public person and I can quite make fun of Sasha: they say, return your last name and stop promoting yourself at my expense!”

Aiza Dolmatova

Isa has long ceased to be just the ex-wife of rapper Guf. For many, she is a style icon, a businesswoman, an aspiring singer and a young mother who can do literally everything. After breaking up with the father of her son Sam, the businesswoman started life from scratch. Dolmatova found her true love: she married surfer Dmitry Anokhin and moved to Bali, settling with her husband in a luxurious villa.

And now Isa is preparing to release her own debut video. “I never thought that I would suddenly decide to do this. But at some point I just wanted to hear my songs, which I always wrote, on a musical medium. It’s cool: driving in a car to your own tracks,” Aiza Dolmatova admitted to StarHit. Guf’s ex-wife intends to expand her activities in Bali. According to the businesswoman, her plans are Napoleonic.

“I decided that I needed a job here too, so it’s not that I found it, I just invented it for myself,” she shared. - I’m already studying the local mentality, getting to know Australians who have lived here for a long time. I want to go international, but I won’t say in what way yet.”

Larisa Kopenkina

In less than three years, an unknown businesswoman from Moscow, Larisa Kopenkina, managed to achieve a lot: in terms of the number of fans, she can easily compete with well-known TV presenters and actresses throughout the country. An unequal marriage with singer Prokhor Chaliapin made her recognizable, and a scandalous divorce from him made her popular. And Larisa proved that she is capable of becoming an independent entity in show business. A year after breaking up with Prokhor, her name still does not leave the gossip columns.

Kopenkina has seen a noticeable increase in readers on Instagram and enthusiastic comments: “I want to be like you at that age!” - young girls write to the 60-year-old lady. Larisa lives brightly: she starts new novels, travels, not forgetting to show off her figure in a bikini, and is engaged in business, which has become much easier to run after the fame that befell her. Some call her crazy, others admire her. "My life my rules! I want to see sunrises, I want to disappear at night and not disturb any of you!” - this is how Larisa Kopenkina once responded to criticism addressed to her.

Valeria Kristovskaya

Vladimir Kristovsky and Valeria Rimskaya lived together for 17 years, and the couple had four daughters. One fine day, the musician fell in love with a girl who was 11 years younger than him. “You see, I just want to be happy. With another. You'll like her. She’s so beautiful!”, - this is how, according to Valeria, her husband told about his new chosen one.

“I forbade myself to think how happy he is without me,” Kristovskaya said. - Started listening to positive music. Signed up for fitness. I exchanged trousers for dresses, beads and stockings that I had never worn before. It's much easier to look at men in a dress! You sit differently, you look more flirtatious. I threw out Vova’s and my bed and bought a new one. And she repainted everything in the house in the colors of the rainbow.”

This helped Valeria. Two years after the divorce, she again found female happiness by marrying the man she loved. “I have changed, I have become independent, I am writing notes about myself and my children in ELLE - perhaps I will combine them into a book,” admitted Valeria Kristovskaya. - I'm going to learn English and Spanish. I want to make jewelry and launch my own line of bright accessories.”

Arkharova’s name became famous thanks to her fleeting marriage to actor Marat Basharov. Many media outlets wrote about the artist’s sudden great love for his colleague in the spring and summer of 2014. However, already in the fall of the same year, the country was shocked by terrible news - Basharov, who from the outside seemed to be an exemplary family man, beat his beloved wife so that she ended up in the hospital.

The loud scandal and subsequent divorce made Arkharov one of the most recognizable people in the country. Now Ekaterina leads an active lifestyle: she acts in films, takes part in two Italian projects at once, lives in two countries, often goes out, attends various presentations, fashion shows, and plays sports. “I only now realized what happiness is,” admitted Ekaterina Arkharova in a recent interview. - This is, first of all, being in harmony with yourself, this is when you thank God more than asking him for something. Now I’m in a period of complete relaxation and inner harmony, so I feel great.”

Yulia Kharlamova

At the beginning of 2013, the whole country was discussing the scandalous divorce from Yulia and Garik Kharlamov. Literally a year and a half after breaking up with her husband, Julia changed both externally and internally. Having transformed from a refined blonde into a spectacular brunette, Julia began to try herself in different professions. At first she was promoting a karaoke club in Spain, and then Kharlamova, together with the lover of one of her friends, founded a company selling ginseng products. “Due to the nature of this activity, I often flew to Asia,” she said. - I was in Spain, Turkey, Brazil, Taiwan. “I celebrated my 30th anniversary in Rio de Janeiro, where the World Cup was held.”

Men are paying attention to Kharlamova, but she has not yet met a potential husband. “Now I’m not ready to fry eggs for anyone,” Yulia shared with. - But I’m happy because I can just walk down the street, enjoy the weather and enjoy life. It took me a year to recover from the divorce. And I am grateful to Garik for the experience I received. Otherwise I would never have become the person I am now.”

Matri And Nargi have been engaged since 2009, and since then the footballer has made serious progress - for example, he won the Scudetto with Juventus and for some time even became one of the best forwards in Serie A. And Federica at that time praised him on television - she leads TV show of the Italian company Mediaset “News Feed”. All her relatives support Inter, and when Matri ended up in Milan, the family was divided into two different camps. Now that Matri has moved back to Juventus, this topic is no longer raised with such zeal - rather, everyone is waiting for another Scudetto for the striker.

9. Lena Gehrke, friend of Sami Khedira

Gehrke The personality itself is quite well known in Germany - a prominent model, TV presenter. But her affair with a famous football player certainly added to her popularity. They With Khediroi They have been dating for quite a long time, since 2011, but they are in no hurry to put a stamp in their passport. It's good for them anyway.

8. Abigail Clancy, girlfriend of Peter Crouch

Clancy has long been considered in England one of the sexiest models of our time, whose figure did not deteriorate even after the birth of her daughter. Her victory in the television competition “Best Top Model – 2006” brought her fame, and in the same year, attention to the beauty increased after the then Liverpool forward courted her. Peter Crouch. Rumor has it that the British striker is crazy about having such a girl next to him.

7. Georgina Dorsett, wife of Tom Cleverley

The wife of the Aston Villa midfielder became famous in England for her work on television - she was both an actress and the host of one of the TV shows on British TV. Doesn't throw Dorsett and modeling business. WITH Cleverly she has been together since 2012 and is five years older than the player, who is currently on loan from Manchester United. But the age difference does not prevent the couple from living happily and raising their son.

6. Melissa Satta, girlfriend of Kevin-Prince Boateng

Satta And Boateng found each other: they are both shocking, bright, do not hide their weaknesses and throw news to journalists with the smell of something fried. At the same time, they have been living in perfect harmony for more than three years and raising a son Maddox. Melissa earned her name as a TV presenter, but managed to prove herself both as a model and as a dancer in a ballet production.

5. Coleen Rooney, wife of Wayne Rooney

Wayne and his wife Colin together since I was 17. First she was his girlfriend, then his fiancée, then his wife. Colin is a famous businesswoman, journalist, and TV presenter. Her personal fortune (excluding Wayne's money) is estimated at £13 million. They have been with Rooney for 13 years and got married in 2008. Moreover, the football player admitted that he “wanted to quickly arrange a wedding in Las Vegas,” but Colleen had other plans. The lovers got married in Italy, in the presence of their closest friends, and the British publication “OK!” paid £5 million for photos from the gala event.

4. Ilaria D'Amico, girlfriend of Gianluigi Buffon

For eight years Buffoon was happy with a Czech model Alena Seredova, however, not so long ago he put his marriage at risk. And fell in love with a Sky journalist Ilaria D'amico. For the sake of an alliance with the Juventus goalkeeper, Ilaria even broke up with her boyfriend. The first rumors about a new union appeared back in October last year, when the journalist interviewed the Juventus captain. A string of sparkling glances did not go unnoticed by everyone on both sides of the screen, turning the conversation into a public meeting of two conspirators, accompanied by the exchange of secret signs that only they understood.

3. Pilar Rubio, fiancee of Sergio Ramos

Significant age difference - Pilar older Sergio for eight years - does not prevent them from enjoying life. The sultry brunette Rubio appeared in Ramos' life in 2012. The spectacular TV presenter and actress accompanied the football player at the Ballon d'Or ceremony. In May 2014, the defender experienced the happiness of fatherhood for the first time. The boy was named after his father - Sergio Ramos Rubio. And in May of this year, Ramos learned that he would become a father for the second time.

2. Sara Carbonero, fiancee of Iker Casillas

Passionate kiss live Sarah And Ikera became a real television hit in the summer of 2010. The relationship between the football player and the TV presenter, who in 2009 was recognized by the American version of FHM magazine as “the sexiest reporter in the world,” had previously been an open secret for many, but only after the victory of the Spanish national team in the final of the world championship did the lovers give vent to their feelings. Iker kissed his girlfriend on the lips right during the flash interview, and then kissed her on the cheek. They got engaged in 2012, and in January last year the couple welcomed their first child - Martin Casillas Carbonero.

1. Shakira, wife of Gerard Pique

Shakira And Pique were born on the same day, February 2, but 10 years apart. She - in 1977, he - in 1987. In this colorful union, the woman is not only older, but also more famous than the chosen one. In 2013 and 2014, Forbes magazine included the Colombian pop diva among the hundred most influential women in the world. The couple has two children - sons Milan And Sasha.

There is a strong opinion that a divorced woman is necessarily unhappy. The epithets that public opinion gives her are quite impartial: lonely, embittered, unable to keep her family together. Most often, it is believed that if a marriage breaks up, then the woman is largely to blame. Therefore, men perceive such women quite warily. Some representatives of the stronger sex will never connect their fate with a divorced woman.

According to statistics, the peak of divorces occurs in the first four years of marriage - about forty percent, then up to nine years - two thirds of all divorces; people break up much less often after ten years of family existence. There are quite a lot of reasons for getting a divorce: marriages of convenience, an insufficiently thought-out decision to get married, infidelity of one of the spouses, sexual incompatibility, differences in characters and views, unpreparedness for family life, alcoholism, etc. What is the difference between a divorced woman and women who have never been married? How does an unsuccessful marriage affect a woman's character? This will be discussed in our article.

How does a woman change after a divorce?

The fact that a woman has already been married does not mean that she has acquired culinary abilities or has become experienced in sex. The first can be learned from childhood from your mother and grandmother, and the second can be learned simply by studying the relevant literature and having a natural temperament. But what really changes in a divorced woman?

The first thing that attracts attention is the development of a large number of complexes. If the divorce took place because of her husband’s infidelity, then the divorced woman will think that the matter is in her feminine qualities. This gives rise to doubts about one’s worth, appearance, and sexuality. In the event of a family breakdown due to everyday problems, for example, constant reproaches from her husband that she is a bad housewife, this can form in a divorced woman hostility towards men in general, who see her only as a housewife. She will become extremely cautious, and eradicating distrust of the male sex in her is a rather difficult task, since this happens on an intuitive level. Naturally, the woman is aware that her new husband is a completely different man, but subconsciously she cannot completely trust him.

The next change in a divorced woman occurs due to the negative experience of family life. After all, they don’t walk away from good things, which means there were conflicts, quarrels, and this is negative. The nervous system is destroyed, and the woman becomes cynical, distrustful, she does not know how to enjoy life. Of course, these are extremes, but it is difficult to argue with the fact that negative experience does not always strengthen character; more often it freezes and devastates the soul. Sometimes a divorced woman perceives divorce as liberation from her previous life, from moral and sometimes even physical suffering, and an opportunity to start all over again, then the above does not apply to her.

Mistakes made in marriage, as well as their consequences, have two sides. On the one hand, this is depressing and self-confidence suffers, which can be considered a negative aspect of divorce. On the other hand, this is a good school of life, in which, moreover, character is strengthened, which is a positive thing. Undoubtedly, it is not easy to find a positive in this situation, but it is simply necessary to try.

However, there are exceptions when a divorced woman is not crushed by the situation, but has learned lessons from it, and, given the negative experience, will never repeat the mistakes. She becomes more confident in her principles, understands and feels a man well, so she is always aware of what she would like to get from a new relationship and what she can give in return.

Men often have the idea that if he entered into a relationship with a divorced woman, then he was fabulously lucky. He believes that he needs a minimum of effort to make her happy, because abandoned women are unassuming. That you just need to periodically highlight the shortcomings of your ex-husband and against this background you can look very advantageous. Of course, a morally depressed woman, and even a divorced one, is an easy prey. But you should think about whether this is all too ingrained in her, whether life with such a woman will become gray and boring. This is one side of the coin, and the other is that the divorced woman has become wiser, more serious, and even more demanding. Perhaps she will accept any man who will take care of her and treat her with respect. Considering that the divorce taught her a good lesson, and she was able to learn from it, a divorced woman may well be successful with men. And, believe me, she is unlikely to make a mistake in her choice a second time. It will probably be clearer if all these situations are considered with specific examples.

Divorced woman after one to three years of marriage.

An argument in favor of such a divorce may be that the length of family life here is short, which means that not much time is spent on a person with whom the relationship did not work out. And the argument against is that the time is still wasted. But this is what affects female psychology. For men, there are many more pros than cons in this situation. Why? If the divorce happened so quickly, it means that the decision of the now divorced woman to start a family was rash. This characterizes her as frivolous and unable to understand people. Again, there are no rules without exceptions. Therefore, it is important to know the reason for the divorce. Of course, the woman will most likely say that the reason is that her husband cheated, or that he oppressed her, or that they simply did not get along in character. This again speaks to her inability to understand people. And it’s good that her patience ran out so quickly. The main advantage of such divorced women in the eyes of men is that they are not yet very exhausted from marriage to another man, and, at the same time, they have already learned to appreciate attention and care, as well as the internal qualities of the new chosen one.

Divorced woman after five to ten years of marriage.

Here there may be many more reasons for divorce than in the first case. But men can find their advantage in this too. Such a divorced woman is already more experienced in living together, she already knows how and wants to understand a man. There are also disadvantages - complexes, negative experiences and mistakes made. The new man cannot understand how she did not recognize a scoundrel in her husband after so many years of family life. Of course, one can cite as an excuse the fact that after seven years of marriage, men are drawn to the left, but a woman cannot like this. However, no one forced her to marry this man? Yes, even if she became his wife, she should have realized earlier that this was not her man. If we take into account that a woman gets married on average at 24 years old, then after five to ten years she will already be over thirty. Of course, I’m not an old woman yet, but I want to start a family. Therefore, despite the disappointments of her previous marriage, a divorced woman strives to get married again. And, most likely, the second marriage will justify her efforts spent on finding a husband and will have a positive effect.

Divorced woman after ten years of marriage.

Probably, such a woman is an ideal match for a divorced man. Indeed, in this case, the divorced woman, if she has not crossed the forty-year mark, is about to do so. In addition, this divorce was a severe emotional blow, which led to an avalanche of complexes, even if the breakup of the family saved her from suffering. At first they will still make themselves felt. She no longer strives for marriage, but more often asks herself the question: what is better, marriage or loneliness. If a divorced woman’s age is not yet such that there is no point in getting married, and it is still too early to die, then she will make a decision in favor of the former.

For a divorced man, such a woman is also good because he himself is in the same position. This means that, most likely, they will find understanding with each other; it is understandable if both were “victims” in a previous marriage. Otherwise, the situation will lead to a second divorce.

Divorced woman. Not the first divorce.

Perhaps, in this case, it is difficult for a man to find positive traits in a divorced woman. The reasons for this are apparently clear. If you make a mistake once, it may be an accident, if you make two mistakes, it may be a coincidence, but if you make three mistakes, then this can already be considered a pattern. When it comes to marriage, then after the second divorce we can talk about a pattern. Such a woman can be classified as a loser, and only an equally loser or a brainless romantic who, falling in love, loses his head, will be interested in her. However, it is worth saying that such divorced women no longer strive to start a family, as they are sure that marriage is a mistake.

Divorced woman holding a child

If a man is ready for this state of affairs, if he can, having fallen in love with such a woman, accept and love her child, then she will become an ideal wife for him.

To summarize all of the above, it should be noted that each man himself must decide what he likes in a divorced woman and what he does not. If this is love, then the fact that his chosen one was already married is unlikely to be decisive for him. In the absence of feeling, a man will look for negative traits in a divorced woman and the most significant will be divorce.

As a result of research, US scientists have come to the conclusion that a divorced woman who did not have time to start a new family in time ages much faster than her peers, even single women and those who are widowed. Divorce greatly affects a woman’s appearance, just like alcohol, tobacco, and antidepressants. However, this does not mean that a divorced woman does not deserve happiness with her loved one and has no chance of it. An intelligent man will understand that the ability to appreciate and compare acquired by a divorced woman is a very important quality. If they meet, then most likely their marriage will be long and strong.

Married for more than 10 years. I'm used to living a family life. Me, my wife, two children - in my head this is already the usual formula of life. Every day is similar to the previous one. Nothing new or unusual was planned in my life. My wife often reminds me that the children are growing up and, therefore, we need to spend a lot of money on them. I, as always, say: “Uh-huh,” and the topic is closed.

And then one day, on one of the most ordinary evenings, I come home after work, and the house is quiet, there is no one. At first I wasn’t even surprised, but delighted. It’s great that at least for a while I can sit in silence, watch TV quietly and stretch my legs on the sofa. We probably went shopping or went to visit our grandparents.

I watched the film, I even wanted to eat, but the family still did not return. He went and cooked himself some dinner, lay down on the sofa and fell asleep unnoticed. In general, the next day neither the wife nor the children appeared in the house. I calmed myself down. Probably something happened to the old parents; they stayed for a few days to support them, fortunately the children were on vacation at school. For some reason my wife’s phone was silent. A couple of days later I was already calling all my friends, my wife and children. I was looking for my family and was going to go get them to her parents.

Suddenly the phone rang. My wife tells me in a completely calm voice that she and the children are moving to live with her parents, and wants to divorce me. I couldn't believe my ears. How's the divorce? Why divorce? After all, everything went as usual, there were no quarrels.

Why get a divorce? I asked my wife this question several times. And I didn’t understand at all what she wanted, what else did she need?

My woman explained to me that she does not want to live with a man who cannot support his family and does not even strive to do so. That she was tired of telling me about this and seeing my indifferent face. And at the end she announced that she wanted to file for divorce.

My indignation knew no bounds, and I simply hung up. I reassured myself that it would be better for me to live alone. My money is enough for me to live, I can help my children a little, and I will never forgive my wife for this step.

A month has passed. I still lived alone. In the morning to work, in the evening from work. Everything was as usual, only the house was empty and quiet. Then my childhood friend unexpectedly called me. He came on a business trip from another city and asked me to spend the night. I happily agreed to meet him.

My soul was miserable, as always, but here at least there was some variety. The meeting was unforgettable. We excitedly recalled our school years with him and laughed. And I told him my story of family life. My friend asked me a couple of questions and then said: “Your wife left because you didn’t earn enough. So earn more. Change jobs, come up with something. You, as a man, must be the breadwinner of the family. Then you will have a family and life will get better.”

I thought about his words. I loved my job. I had good relationships with my colleagues, and my work experience was decent. The only thing I wasn't happy with was the salary. The very next day I was in the director's office. I talked with him about my career growth, and accordingly, increasing my income. The boss was very surprised. After all, I never talked to him about it myself. A couple of years ago I was offered a higher position, but I refused because I was afraid of unnecessary responsibility, and somehow I didn’t particularly want to boss my friends around. The boss gave the go-ahead for my promotion.

At first it was somehow awkward to sit in the chair of the head of the department, but I quickly got used to it. Our department worked well that month, and on payday I had decent money in hand. The first thing I did was buy a computer for my eldest child, which he had dreamed of for so long.

I flew as if on wings to meet my family. The children greeted me on the threshold with great delight, and my wife stood in the distance and looked at me with pride. There were tears in my eyes. As she later told me, she went to our house almost every day and watched me from afar.